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Do Teenagers Really Need Boundaries? |
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Wednesday, 10 March 2010 23:04 |
- Beyond that, when boundaries are set, kids know what is expected of them. They are able to make good choices within those boundaries and to gain confidence. They will also gain your trust which is something they desire.
- Boundaries provide freedom. Does that sound like an oxymoron? When teenagers or younger kids know the boundaries, they are free to move in any direction within them. When there are no boundaries, they have no freedom to roam.
- Even though your kids will never tell you this, they really don't want to be totally responsible for themselves. They want to know where you think the boundaries should be.
- Don't be afraid of conflict that might arise. It may seem easier to be permissive, but in the long run, you and your child may pay a high price.
- Establishing boundaries and enforcing them doesn't mean that your children will never cross those boundaries, but their safety, security and comfort will be greatly enhanced because you cared enough to draw the line.
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